I would not worry to do something special for me. The handle sorting for "The ..." won't really solve what I am trying to do, it would only help. So, since I now understand this is how it works, and understand why, I should really look at another solution.
For reference, my situation may just be unique. All of my albums are organized into folders, there is no flaw there. All of the files within those folders will all have the same album tag on them, which may differ from the folder name. It is possible to have more than 1 albums with the same album name tag though, obviously with containing folders named different. Examples would be for a EU and US version of a release that may contain different tracks, different number of tracks, etc. These albums would all have the same album name in tags, because that is the name of the album. The folders though will indicate to me the origins of the album, making them different to me, but also providing the actual album name to others.
If it helps any one reading this, my tagging will resemble that of MusicBrainz, so the descriptors like deluxe, Japan, etc are not part of the actual album title, but descriptors for different albums in a album group.