thnx phred, that is a very useful list.
Indeed I googled, saw many suggestions and comparisons, also tried out some software, but nothing got me very enthusiastic.
There seems to be some consensus on da internetz that Lightroom is sort of top-dog for this, but I don't like the interface at all, and it is far too overweight for what I want to use it for. Managing and tagging is my main purpose here, and editing has a very low priority.
Also some less computer-savvy people should be able to quickly navigate around without such a steep learning-curve.
One suggestion from your link does trigger some enthusiasm with me.
Phototeca might be a very nice candidate.
testing 1,2,3, testing....
edit:
found another promising candidate: FotoAlbum 7